June 18, 2013
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OMG its so late (sorry not proof-read)

Okay, I totally lost track of time.  So let’s see where we left off yesterday.  S had divorced from Tanya and Trudi were never to be seen again, except through the occasional blurry picture that was emailed to my mother.  … Continue reading

November 5, 2012
by Laney
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PTSD, Sexual Abuse, Rape, Adoption and Relationships

I am slightly conflicted about making this post.  I do not think anyone thing that I have experienced in my live has affected my ability to be in a relationship.  Honestly, to me anyway, it seems like it is a … Continue reading

November 5, 2012
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PTSD, Sexual Abuse, Rape, Adoption and Relationships

I am slightly conflicted about making this post.  I do not think anyone thing that I have experienced in my live has affected my ability to be in a relationship.  Honestly, to me anyway, it seems like it is a … Continue reading

BullshitFreeZone: Need Help 🙁 I don’t know to do…

skullsoflove:

So lately I’ve been obsessing about finding my biological mom. For those of you that don’t know I was adopted as a baby and it was a closed adoption. I’ve never been able to know anything about any part of my biological family, except for knowing that one my moms co-workers adopted my younger…

Looking for biological parents is never an easy decision to make.  I think the first thing that you have to do is realize that looking for your biological parents in no way means that you find your parents lacking in anything.

I’ve always been worried that looking for my biological mother would hurt my own mother.  I decided that for me that was not something that I needed to do.  However, I know that there a lot of adoptees that want to find their biological parents.

If it something you really want to do I would talk to your mom and dad about it.  First though you might want to write out what you are going to say to them.  Have like practice conversations with them.  Maybe you can get one of your friends to pretend to be your parents so that you can practice talking to them about wanting to find out more information about your biological parents.  That way you will fill more comfortable talking with your parents.  Good luck, with whatever decision that you make.

Random Ramblings of a Ravished Mind: Need to clear this up!

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My “Real” parents are my Mom and my Dad. The people who raised me. Who named me. Who fed and bathed and clothed and put up with me through my horrid teenager years. My real parents are Chris and Joanne, my mom and my dad.

My “Biological” parents are the people who I am related to through DNA. Kim…

PREACH!!!!

I know that all adoptees feel this way but it is the way I feel.  I get really upset when people ask me, don’t you wish you knew who your mom and dad are.  Um, hello, I know them.  I can tap on Mom or Dad in my cell phone and guess what happens, it rings their cellphones.

For me my other “favorite” question is, where are you from, because well I am not white.  The funny thing is that more non-white people ask me this question.  I always tell them, oh I’m from here.  They look at me and then go, where are your parents from?  Me: Connecticut.  More blinking, what about their ancestors.  Me: Um, well Italy, Germany, and then a bit of every other European country.  More blinking.

I always want to tell them, the real question you are looking for is, what is your ethnicity.  But I am mean and just like to leave them going, how does this dark haired, dark eyed, and olive-tan skinned girl come from Italy, Germany, and a bit of every where else.

It’s pretty funny to watch, oh and sad of course.  Racial profiling, it isn’s jut something people in Arizona do.

October 24, 2012
by Laney
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A Short Post: Therapy, Sexual Abuse, Adoption

So I have had a lot of years to think about why I act the way that I act.  I think a lot of it has to do with my adoption and my sexual abuse.  My rape really only geared … Continue reading

October 24, 2012
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A Short Post: Therapy, Sexual Abuse, Adoption

So I have had a lot of years to think about why I act the way that I act.  I think a lot of it has to do with my adoption and my sexual abuse.  My rape really only geared … Continue reading