Anonymous asked: How do you feel about the Duggers?


How do you feel about the Duggers?

I go back and forth about how I feel about the Duggars. Mostly because I never liked them in the first place. I strongly disagree with all of their beliefs and the majority of the words that come out of their mouths drive me insane.

That being said, the fact that the police report was leaked was awful. It is hurtful both to the victims and to the family. There is much misinterpretation going on about what the family is saying in response to this and a lot of speculation.

It is hard enough to admit that you are a victim to yourself, to your family, or to other people that you care about. Now the Duggar daughters feel like they have to defend themselves because the information that was suppose to be private and secure has been put out for the general public to read and criticize.

A friend texted me today and told me that she heard on the radio that during the interview that the girls were given that they were crying about the show being taken away from them, that they were being punished even though they are the victims.

It turns out that this is incorrect. The girls were actually upset because of the fact that the police report was leaked. The girls have every right to be upset, should they talking to the media? That is a personal decision, but if it was me I would have decided not to do an interview. I might have asked my publicist to put out a general statement that I was upset and hurt by leak of the police report and that my family is handling the situation as best as we are able to. That is all they really owe the media.

We do not know what kind of treatment the son was given. When he was given treatment? Where the girls given treatment? What kind of “safe guards” were put in place to protect the other children? None of this is anyone’s business though. Could or should have the family have handled the situation differently? I firmly believe they did not handle their son sexually abusing their daughters in the right way, however, I am not a medical professional, I am just a survivor of child sexual abuse.

In my opinion Josh should have been removed from the house, the police did not have to be involved but the parents should have still reached out to Child Protective Services (CPS). Employees of CPS are trained in how to handle situations like these and would have been able to ensure that all of the children involved would have received proper treatment.

Is Josh a pedophile as a result of this? Are his own children in danger? The answers to these questions depend on the type of treatment he received. Is there a chance that he could be a pedophile, yes, but it is very important to note that not all instances of child sexual abuse are a result of pedophilia.

Can Josh be reformed? Yes, with proper medical treatment he can be reformed. He might already be reformed, we just do not know. We also should not be trying to put him under a microscope either. The only people who should be involved in his treatment and reform is his family and medical professional.

Do the girls need treatment? Yes, without a doubt. They may need therapy for the rest of their lives because there was a significant level of trust that was broken when they were sexually abused by their brother. He is their brother, they expect him to take care of them, to love them, to protect them. He did none of these things when he sexually abused them.

What happened to the Duggars is awful. It is horrible when any family has to go through this. The pain and hurt that they went through when their son sexually abused their daughters is something that no one can fully understand, not even someone like me who has gone through this myself.

My major issue with the Duggars is that instead of trying to take care of their childern it seems more like they are trying to protect their reputation and their brand. This does not surprise me given the actions of the parents when they found out about the abuse that was happening.

I hope that the family is able to get the help that they need to deal with this situation. I honestly believe that the best thing for them would be to take themselves out of the spotlight and work on rebuilding their relationship as a family.


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